Disclosure: I will be addressing this issue specifically for African - American males. No this is not to discriminate against any other race. THAT IS NOT ALLOWED HERE. Its only because that's whom I'm most around, what I've seen and things i hear from THEM.
Being an African-American man himself, who else could say it better .
The African American male is the most targeted person in the united states . Hell, the world is constantly on his back watching his every move hoping he will slip. But who is there behind him to catch him if he does? I can speak up and say even us, their women don't do enough. As i have stated before mental health is very much overlooked in a our kind of household. Guys need to toughen up the moment they can walk and he cant show emotions because that's for the weak. Its so weird ... And why many of them don't have the mental compacity to take care of theirselves let alone a partner in a relationship.
I also very strongly dislike the term "Masculinity". Besides obvious anatomy reasons what makes a man, a man? At the end of the day we are all human. Shit life and its obstacles have no gender preference. Over the years women have proven time and time again we can do most physical hardships a man can. So i ask again what makes a man such a man you forget he is even human? We need to stop being stereotypical when it comes to men. No one is ever just "fine". He is not fine because he already has a target on his back the moment he's born. Maybe he is anxious every time time on his route home hoping he makes it there. Frustrated because these emotions he's never confronted are bothering him . Angry that he has no positive ways to channel them into or someone to talk to. Sad that there's so many obstacles in his way than the average person and all he wants to do is say he made it.
It took for our men to be killed by the day in the hands of cops for us to finally stand. Realize we need to protect them in all aspects and how we need to do better. This also does not excuse the fact that they can do wrong at times. Everyone at least learns right from wrong growing up. I am trying to say that most times someone have a specific toxic trait its due to what they learned... or most likely didnt learn. Our childhood years are the most important , they symbolize who we become. It’s also never too late to be a better version of yourself. Clearly from the post above we are not doing enough to make our men feel appreciated. Also guys you have each other and yet do not use it to your advantage. Out of anyone in this world another male figure no matter the age would understand you the most. There’s nothing “homophobic” about expressing yourself to the next man. Stop putting false labels on things that are natural to prove you’re more of something.
My blog post are not for me to vent or journal alone. The Goal is for at least one person to take something out of it.